On Friday, August 19th, I hosted 40+ ppl on a rooftop, and felt so good after. It’d gone so ‘well’ — a judgement I based on both how I felt emotionally, and the inputs I was getting from attendees. I got woken up at 7am the next day to a…

Warning: this piece contains explicit sexual material. I didn’t have penetrative sex for two and a half years. It started as a mandate from a life coach: I wasn’t allowed to have sex w someone unless I thought they could be ‘my person’. It was also designed to be an…

I think of dating as one of the healthiest things I do. Especially when it comes to online dating, I see it as a space to be my best self, cause it calls on me to: use my voice speak my truth identify my wants and needs on the regular …

I write these medium posts weekly, then spread the word(s) via an eBlast. Weeks later, I post about ’em on my Instagram. Its a non-logical effort at self-protection; its been said that we write for audiences of 1, or 3, or 5 when we post on social media. Well —…

I really love being around people AND being surrounded by people-generated activity has historically been how I’ve hid, cope’d, escaped. Some people lean on drugs, alcohol, music, television, etc. My drug of choice = people — and with them — experiences. I’ve also historically gotten high off experiences that had…

What’s been my loonggggg and dysfunctional relationship w food began when I was 8. That’s when my Dad’s disordered eating really took hold; he’d gained weight, and he’d devised a plan to lose it that involved restricting calories. By the time he died 5 years ago, he was — I…

I’ve spent a legit amount of time over the last 4 years on dating apps; initially it was at the behest of a coaching group called Handel, who had a clear process for interacting that I adopted and to this day recommend: Move anything w a vibe from the app…

I’ve been in early days of dating soooo many times. …

I have a fear that I (unwittingly) attract conflict. Until recently, I was in a seismic fracture with a very close friend. That led to more fractures, more conflicts. It felt life-altering. Someone on a work project got really upset with me this weekend. A near-stranger conflict. My sister is…