Last week, I published a piece about a guy who operated (still does? I dunno) in the world sans integrity, and what it’d been like to come together w other women to take down a ‘bad guy’. I don’t really believe in a good/bad binary — but lets go w…

I got an email telling me that Evryman was set to do an installment of their MELT retreat in October, and I got excited to promote it, which got me back into what a proponent I am of men’s work. Back in 2015, I watched my friend Sascha co-create Evryman…

Warning: this piece contains explicit sexual material. I was at a gathering on Saturday, and we were asked to share a ‘magic moment’ from the past year. I went scanning and scanning the archives of my mind, then stop’d the noise. ‘It will come,’ I told myself. ‘Just go blank…

On Friday, August 19th, I hosted 40+ ppl on a rooftop, and felt so good after. It’d gone so ‘well’ — a judgement I based on both how I felt emotionally, and the inputs I was getting from attendees. I got woken up at 7am the next day to a…

Warning: this piece contains explicit sexual material. I didn’t have penetrative sex for two and a half years. It started as a mandate from a life coach: I wasn’t allowed to have sex w someone unless I thought they could be ‘my person’. It was also designed to be an…

I think of dating as one of the healthiest things I do. Especially when it comes to online dating, I see it as a space to be my best self, cause it calls on me to: use my voice speak my truth identify my wants and needs on the regular …

I write these medium posts weekly, then spread the word(s) via an eBlast. Weeks later, I post about ’em on my Instagram. Its a non-logical effort at self-protection; its been said that we write for audiences of 1, or 3, or 5 when we post on social media. Well —…

I really love being around people AND being surrounded by people-generated activity has historically been how I’ve hid, cope’d, escaped. Some people lean on drugs, alcohol, music, television, etc. My drug of choice = people — and with them — experiences. I’ve also historically gotten high off experiences that had…

What’s been my loonggggg and dysfunctional relationship w food began when I was 8. That’s when my Dad’s disordered eating really took hold; he’d gained weight, and he’d devised a plan to lose it that involved restricting calories. By the time he died 5 years ago, he was — I…